Successful women are absolutely the best at not showing what’s really going on for them. The expectation that we should just have it all together and not even think, let alone talk about what’s really going on is stopping progress being made in women living their best lives.
I’m a confidence and empowerment coach in Christchurch, NZ and the more women I speak to and work with, the more I realise we have to create a space for people to speak their truth and connect with their inner voice.
I was talking to a client recently and we discussed how she had felt about things before we started working together, what became clear was that she knew she needed to make a change, but she genuinely just didn’t know how to.
She had found it a real struggle to actually talk about the feelings that she had inside, everyone around her just knew her as a success. The life and soul of the party and the person who had it all together and she didn’t want them knowing that actually, she didn’t.
She didn’t want people to know that when she looked in the mirror, she wasn’t quite sure who the person was staring back at herself.
She knew that she needed to make changes and she tried, time and time again to make that change, and yet nothing actually become any different.
It was this realisation, that even though she was a high achieving and successful woman, actually when it came to sorting out her own baggage, she needed a little bit of help.
And that’s where I come in.
My whole aim in life is to help successful women become the women that they can live the life they dreamed was for them, they can show up for their friends and family and they can be the role models that they want to be.
Life has changed so much in the last few years, particularly in the last year and I think it’s time to actually take a step back and reassess what’s really important.
I know many women are struggling with life. And it’s not so they have bad lives, it’s not to say they don’t have careers that they love, it’s not that they’re not in family situations that they adore, but actually deep down, they’re struggling to know who they really are and whether this is it…
….Is this all that life is offering them, because if it is, they feel a little bit short-changed.
As women we so often put the everybody’s needs ahead of our own. And that leaves us feeling a bit empty, especially when we’re working really hard, we have successful careers, we are running businesses, we’ve got high powered jobs.
It makes it really difficult to actually stop and ask for help because you know that everyone else thinks you’ve got your shit together.
And when you haven’t, you don’t want to ruin that illusion.
There has become so much pressure to live up to the expectation rather than the reality.
We have to learn to drop our masks, we have to learn to ask for help, we have to learn that it’s okay to be vulnerable and share your real truth of how you are actually feeling and that it’s alright to get support. Because if you don’t, then actually, what is this life all about?
Do you really want to look back in a year, five years, 10 years and think, I wish I’d done things differently? This is your chance to actually do things differently.
Yeah, it can be scary. Yeah, it can be daunting. The thought of actually investing in yourself spending money on something that you actually don’t know what the outcome is going to be. You don’t really know what you’re going to find out, it can be really really scary, but all I can say is from talking to and working with my clients is it is worth it.
The change will without a doubt be positive in the long run, sometimes at the start, it can feel scary and unknown, you feel like you’re opening up a wound that perhaps you didn’t really want to.
You have to trust the process and know that if you do push through; if you know who you really are, if you understand what drives you, what your core values are and what makes a difference being in alignment with them makes to you; then without a shadow of a doubt, it is going to impact the rest of your life.
So if you’re that person, if you’re reading this thinking yeah you know what life is pretty good, but I still feel like something is missing, or that actually, I could do with someone to talk to you about what’s going on at the moment, then please reach out, it’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help it is an absolute sign of strength.
And all I can say is I’m here together with Erin, we're here to listen, we're here to support……So reach out
and get in touch.